I learned that in any place you do something to compensate for something and you can technically argue you already validated and countered a point.. then, the arguing and nervousness is to stop.
I know in the South when you do something you worry @ the big picture. Like, you don't say oh I'll just keep going. You look at "what" in the picture, like what will my neighbor have to say?
A professor from Harvard school of music died, whose wife was very nice to me. He was semi-old. ..R.I.P. :[